My Dad had an interesting way of handling these things. When my siblings and I would be screaming, fighting, and crying with no end in sight, he would call a cease-fire and ask us what happened. Of course, we each had our own version of the truth. And as you would expect, we blamed each other.
When it became clear it was nothing more than silly sibling squabbling, my Dad would make each one us stand in opposite corners of the room and forbid us to look at each other, or worse, laugh.
Well, you and I both know what happens when you’re told NOT to do something – it’s what you WANT to do most! So, it was just a matter of time, usually seconds, before we’d sneak peaks at each other, giggle, and go into hysterics. By the time we caught our breaths, we no longer cared who or what the argument was about.
Clutching our bellies, we promised to play nicely if Dad let us leave from our corners. A big smile spread across his face and he’d nod. And that’s how it was done.
When my kids were younger, if things got out of hand and I was too frazzled to do the “Go-In-The-Corner” method, I used Time-outs. It seemed to give everyone the chance to cool off a little (including me). Then we’d reconvene and talk it out.
As kids get older, not all conflicts are resolved that easily. Nor does the peace always last. I’ve learned to appreciate those moments when no one is fighting. And sometimes, for no reason, I put myself in a Time-out. It’s really nice there.
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I a SO going to try the CORNERS thing. Love that.
I’ve got lots of corners to use! I might just try it! Thanks! (I love hearing “Old School” Parenting– it gives us a break!)
Super cute. This brought a smile to my face. Thanks CG
What a great idea your dad had. I’m going to use it with my munchkins and hope it works as well for me as it did in your home! Thanks for sharing!
Now you tell me! I could’ve saved myself a headache with all the craziness of having boys who fought like cats and dogs for years.
Love it! I will try it. Sounds like a great memory
Thanks for the comments! Hope the ‘Corners’ work for you too
Sweet post of childhood memories and now your experiences with your own kids. Sometimes time-outs are the only answer for me…a cooling off of sorts.
I love your dad’s method. What a great parent!
Love your dad’s simple solution!
I might try corners instead of the usual time out next time things go nuts around here.
Your dad sounds like a very smart man.
Thank you, he was a great dad