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Acceptances have been received, deposits have been made, your child is going off to college in just a matter of weeks. In fact, you’re probably wearing a t-shirt bearing the name of their soon-to-be alma mater. Congratulations! You and your freshman have worked years to get to this place. They’ve studied. You’ve worried. (Maybe that […]

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Now that my favorite TV shows are on summer break it’s the perfect time for me to catch up on my reading. I’m not sure if I’ll get through my entire list because of the pull of sunshine, kids, and no homework, but it’s worth a try. So grab your iced cold lemonade or chilly […]

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  • Jack - I am reading Up Country by Nelson Demille. Pretty good stuff.ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - Thanks for this list. I needed a new book to read and Mira Jacob’s book looks like one I’d enjoy.ReplyCancel

  • Haralee Weintraub - I always like a list! Thanks. I have been stuck in 20th century so to get out I have a stack including Sarah Vowell’s books, Anne Hillerman and one I will listen to, back to WWII “the Boys in the Boat”ReplyCancel

  • Alison Fauls - i love chick lit, and my favorite of the summer so far is Ashley Farley’s Her Sister’s Shoes.ReplyCancel

  • Kelly L McKenzie - Now this is just too funny. In the summer I catch up on all the shows I’ve missed! with my two home from college we sit down together and binge. However having said that, I do love to read. And the one book that I’ve read on your list? The Rosie Effect. LOVED it. Mentioned it on twitter and Graeme boomed right back with a witty reply in the voice of the main character. Such a gem.ReplyCancel

  • Beth Blacker - I am very excited for Harper Lee’s Go Set A Watchman to come out this week. To Kill A Mockingbird has always been one of my all-time favorites so I can barely contain myself right now :) Thanks for sharing via #MidLifeBloggers.ReplyCancel

  • Nicole DeSimone Johnson - Thanks for the list. I really need to start reading more and these look like great suggestionsReplyCancel

  • Thoughts, Tips and Tales - Hi- Met you at BlogHer15 last week and got your card, and when I went to check out your blog today, realized I’ve read it several times. We both love to read, too! I have a page with all the books read in the past 2 years – the hard part is remembering to take a photo of them or write the names down before returning them to the library for more books. It was nice to meet you!ReplyCancel

Most parents of typical toddlers are constantly challenged, mentally drained, and extremely exhausted. Not much changes when you’re raising a teenager.   Though unlike the “Terrible Two’s,” teenagers are extremely verbal and, while you will still hear the emphatic “NO,” are like well-versed little lawyers: ready, willing, and able to defend or plead their case. […]

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  • Claudia Schmidt - I was just having this very discussion this morning. My 2 are 19 and 17 and man, it’s a crazy ride! Your feedback is dead on :)ReplyCancel

  • Emily - Yup – all true! Two of my three kids are teens now and this is far more mentally exhausting than those toddler years…thank god for wine! :)ReplyCancel

  • Valerie Newman - I love this post. And thankfully, I (and my kids) survived the teenage years with few scars. That song, “I Will Survive” used to play in my head.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Hysterical.My grandaughter is just starting this craziness.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - This is hilarious! I do remember my car smelling like fries……… funny! Pick your battles — is the best advice ever. We lived by that one when our kids were teens. It served us and them well!ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - lol love that quote about the dog. My kids made it through their teenage years thankfully and yes it was a rough ride. This post is so right on. Made me laugh the whole way through!ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - This is funny now that my kids are no longer teenagers! Everything you said here is so true, and I have the gray roots to prove it.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I just had lunch with a friend who has teens and what a lunch it was. Her 13 yr old’s phone screen came up with porn the other day. LOLReplyCancel

  • Cheryl Nicholl - So true. I remember the days. I just swallowed my temper and let it all pass. Now I’m the smartest person they know!ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Maltzman - Cute!ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - So true. And I feel like I’m living this all over again with my granddaughter. Only this time I’m a bit wiser.ReplyCancel

  • Hayley - Excellent wisdom and entertaining as well! LOL!ReplyCancel

  • Heidi Sloss - Great reminders for parents of teens. Mostly I remember that time fondly and miss the teen energy around the house. But then I remember the teen temper tantrums and hormonal moodiness that was also a part of the package and feel better with a phone call or dinner date with my now grown/Inc kids. We are now foraging adult relationships with our kids. The wheel is turning!ReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Mason Wolfe - Funny! I have two teens…one on the upside of teenage terror, and one on the downside. I can do this…ReplyCancel

I recently had the opportunity to hear Judge Judy speak at a women’s event. I admit, I don’t watch The Judge Judy show which has been on air for 20 years, but I heard she is quite the character and a dynamic speaker, so I was eager to go. She did not disappoint. I left […]

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  • UP - Judge Judy has a lot of wisdom and a lot of gumption!ReplyCancel

  • Sheila Rogers - LOL! I’ve never watched Judge Judy either. I’ve seen her show a couple of times at my parents’ house. She is a ball of fire, and her story is inspiring.ReplyCancel

  • Paul D. Brads - Judge Judy has a lot of wisdom and a lot of gumption!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - So sorry I missed that event. I think I was recovering from something. :)) I’ve always admired her straight talking take no prisoners approach. I could use some of what she’s selling!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs - Wouldn’t it be great if we all had mothers as strong as Judge Judy? Or were mothers that strong. I’ve never watched her show but this post confirms all the great things I’ve read about her. Thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I like how she didn’t let labels define her. Average isn’t how her life turned out!ReplyCancel

  • Marion ostrow - Once saw Judge Judy in a restaurant , serving her husband coffee. I thought she’s tough and feminine . Good qualities.ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I always watch her at the gym! BTW, you turned out pretty good.ReplyCancel

  • Heidi Sloss - I don’t watch her show either, but it/she has become part of our culture’s lexicon. I think part of the fascination is that she is so direct, something for which our world usually punishes women. Didn’t know she had written female empowerment books, thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - My parents watch her show every single day. They love her!ReplyCancel

  • RachRiot - Also, Judy makes BANK!! I read somewhere she makes $47 million dollars. GO JUDY!ReplyCancel

  • Kelly Caflisch-Arnoldussen - love judge judy!ReplyCancel

  • Elena Peters - I watch once in a while because she is so enigmatic. I love the way she calls every one out on their bullshit. And how inspiring that she started her career later in life. I have 2 years to start! Lol Thanks for linking to #MidLifeLuvReplyCancel

My favorite TV show ended…hold me. I fall into a funk when my favorite shows go on hiatus. Yes, when that season ends I get down. Really down. Down like the time my BFF left the entire summer for sleep-a-way camp, and I was stuck in summer school doing Folk Dancing. It was a heck […]

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  • Carol Cassara - Hubby and I talk about this all the time, it IS like they are our friends and part of our social life, in a way.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - I’m still devastated by the ending of LOST and FRIDAY NIGHT LIGHTS. More recently, BREAKING BAD. I’m dreading the final episode of DOWNTON ABBY. Oh, my. I think I need to get a life. (Or just be glad BLOODLINE might be back. And that OITNB will still will be around for a tad longer.)ReplyCancel

  • jen - I feel the same way when a show I love ends totally or goes on hiatus. I just started watching “Younger,” you should give it a try. I think it’s pretty funny. I also love vagina humor, which it has, so that’s a plus for me.ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - I always try not to start another series… and I always fail. Orphan Black and Game of Thrones are both showing right now, so I am in heaven. I do like how series now start at different times of the year unlike when we were kids and everything was a go in the fall.ReplyCancel

  • Karen D. Austin - I just binged watch House M.D. at the start of the year. I was so sad when it I finished. I haven’t found a suitable replacement yet. *sniff, sniff*ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Game of Thrones just started back up! It is always over too soon!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - OMG, you haven’t watched “House of Cards?” Get thee to a remote! How about “Doc Martin?”ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - What are your favorite TV shows this season?ReplyCancel

  • Hayley Kaplan - Time for a serious chat, my friend. Let’s talk about getting you some help, LOL!ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I love Downton Abby and watched every episode in 2 days while recovering from surgery. I hated when this season ended and I’m already dreading the end of that series and the end of Mad Men but Hell on Wheels is coming back in a few weeks.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - It would be nice if, like our wandering kids, those we invited in our houses every week would text or call or send an email. That is a nice idea and maybe one someone will latch on to! What do you think? Notes from your favorite characters as a business model?ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - Oh my gosh, I just hate it when my favorite shows end, or worse yet, are taken off the air which happens more than I like to admit. I always search for something else entertaining and with Netflicks it’s easy to find something worth watching. It’s nice hearing that others get equally as annoyed when our shows leave us.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Endlich Heffernan - The answer to your problems….Wolf HallReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I hear you! I hate when Downton Abbey and Orange is the New Black come to an end each season, and I was distraught when Brothers and Sisters ended for good.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - You must have been reading my mind! I’ve been thinking of this a lot lately. I still can’t believe that Friday Night Lights is over. Boo hoo.ReplyCancel

  • Stephanie Marsh - YOU HAVEN’T SEEN OITNB OR GOT? Get to it. You have a lot of Netflix binging in your future.ReplyCancel

From the makers of the beloved Air Bud movies (remember those adorable sports-playing Golden Retrievers?) and Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment is the newly released Russell Madness (PG). Russell Madness is a fun-filled family adventure that is both hilarious and heartwarming. It begins with Russell, a loveable and spirited Jack Russell Terrier, running away from […]

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I was at a dinner party recently, chatting up a small group of men and women, all of us around the same age, when someone made a joke about aging. My ears perked and I blurted that I had turned The Big 5-O. They were stunned. Sadly, not for the reason I had hoped. A […]

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  • Sharon Greenthal - I’ve never lied about my age, except when i was trying to buy beer in high school LOL. I mean, what’s the point? As far as I’m concerned we’re only getting better in more ways than not. Though I do seriously hate having to wear glasses all the time.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - I was single in my fifties when I met my forever man. I was hesitant to tell him I was five years older, but when he found out he didn’t care. It’s really silly to worry about age.ReplyCancel

  • Kristen Miller Hewitt - I LOVE this and yes I lie about my age. But in my industry if people know the truth I’m screwed.ReplyCancel

  • Colleen Holloran Foshee' - No way I lie about my age. Yes we lose a little smooth and tight, but we gain a little smooth and tight too. Our interesting stories and our life experiences can be incredibly sexy if we’ve gained wisdom and grown from them. I don’t want to go back. I plan to move forward with more confidence than ever. And then there’s always our incredible girlfriends!!! *smile*ReplyCancel

  • Walker Thornton - I never lie about my age–I actually preface many conversations with, “I’m 60 and…” I announced it in a presentation I was giving a couple of weeks ago. I own it proudly-gray hair, sags and all. I would have given that man a gentle slam down if it had been me.
    I think that by standing up proudly and setting the example that aging isn’t the worst thing on the planet, we work to help changes minds and attitudes.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I haven’t lied about my age since I was trying to buy alcohol as a teenager! I’m take me as I am kind of girl!ReplyCancel

  • Jack - I’ll be 46 in May and I never lie about my age unless I say I am older.

    I play basketball with a bunch of guys in their twenties and thirties and sometimes I tease the young guys by saying at guy who is almost 60 beat them.

    Anyway, I really believe it is a state of mind. If I worked hard enough I might get my college waist back but my face won’t ever look like that boy again and I am cool with it.

    I worked hard to become the man I am now.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - Never! I wear my age like a badge of honor. I speak regularly and it’s one of the things I mention in my intro. Mostly because there is such a horrible stigma attached to 61. It’s so wrong!!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I love being 63 and all the wisdom that comes with it. I once lost a beau when I was 40 lying about my age as he was 10 yrs younger. LOLReplyCancel

  • Carol Graham - I never felt the necessity to lie about my age and I still don’t. I used to love going to the booth at local carnivals where they have to guess your age — won a prize every time.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - We can sing this one in harmony: “…what’s most sexy begins between the ears.” No kidding! How I value myself and those that matter in my life is one of the biggest shifts in my perspective as the years flew by — it is our brains and our conversations and the laughter we share. Another wonderful post!ReplyCancel

  • Carolyn West - I most certainly do NOT lie about my age. I’ll be turning 50 this year and I’m actually quite proud of the way I look. When we lie about our age it just feeds into the notion that it’s not okay to be aging.ReplyCancel

  • Pam Lutrell - I actually had someone tell me that if I was going to tell my blog readers that I am 61 (which I do often) that I needed to let my hair go gray and I needed to look over 60! They said I would get more attention from brands if I looked my actual age! I have never lied about it and I do not believe I need to change my appearance to look the way the rest of world might think a sixty something should look. The types of comments and a story like yours just baffle me.ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - I actually went on the Today Show to talk about an essay I’d written about turning 60. So I not only don’t lie about my age, but I told 5 million people how old I was. So I’m with you.ReplyCancel

  • Roxanne Jones - I don’t lie about my age (61). Sure, I kvetch about some of the crap that comes along with getting older, but I’m honestly grateful to have made it this far. As Popeye says, “I am what I am.”ReplyCancel

  • Hayley Kaplan - I don’t lie about my age when asked in person but I consciously go out of my way to not have it online – for a reason that may surprise you. Identity theft is at an all time high. Birth date is one of the factors that give criminals a piece of the puzzle that make your identity that much easier to breach. Since many of us get lots of birthday greetings on Facebook, I highly recommend keeping the year private and not letting everyone how old you are. As such, I delete any comments that reference my age in well meaning (I think) comments on my page.

    That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it! :)ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Olkowski - I never lie about my age either. I’m 61. My voice sounds like I’m 8 years old so I don’t really worry about it much. I still can’t believe I’m actually 61. It’s alarming if I think about it so I don’t. I’m 30 in my mind.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - I love this post! It really struck a cord with me for many reasons. I too and in my 50’s and folks are always telling me “how great I look for my age”. For my age, there is the kicker. I just shrug it off and say thanks. I once told my age to a classroom full of adults I was teaching. They were shocked I should reveal such a thing! I was proud and didn’t give a hoot – no booze was involved either lol. I don’t care what others say, I’m happy to still look good at my ages…yes. And, I’ve never dyed my hair…good genes I guess…had to get something good from the mix considering all the crappy ones lol. Seriously though, always post…really got my goat!ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I have never lied about my age and I too have gotten some crazy looks.
    Turning 50 was so tramatic for me but I have never been happier. I turned 57 yesterday and I can’t wait to see what happens next.ReplyCancel

  • Carpool Goddess - Loving all of these comments. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!ReplyCancel

  • Gracie Frick - Do I lie about my age? Oh yeah, big time! 😉
    But I think having purple hair at this stage of my life, just proves I’m going through a mid-life crisis!ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Erasmus - For me, my life kind of began in my forties (meaning that’s when I met my husband and had my daughter), so I haven’t minded growing older too much. As the mom of a 5 year old, I don’t talk about my age.ReplyCancel

  • Erika Grediaga - I don’t lie about my age (I just turned 40), but my grandmother and her sisters kept shaving years off until well into their 80’s… and at that point everybody just took it as a joke. I do believe that aging gracefully should be anybody’s goal. When I see what Uma Thurman and Renee Zellwegger had done to themselves I just shudder.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I have never lied about my age. I’m proud to be running around, having fun, at 56. My weight is an entirely different story :)ReplyCancel

  • Nina - I haven’t visited you here in way too long! The aging thing– ugh . . . so, I’m 38 and already in my circles the conversations are about botox and whatnot. I can already see how much it’s going to take to keep up my desire NOT to succumb to it all. It’s an odd sensation when it seems like everyone else around me is determined to stay frozen at a certain age. There’s also the newer non-surgical treatments for “fat melting” etc and I swear I have friends doing that stuff, too. Can’t we all just make pact to save the time and money and age together? Sigh.ReplyCancel

  • Sisterhood of the Sensible Moms - If I were going to lie, I would say I was 70. I look DAMN good for 70. 😉 But in all seriousness, great post. EllenReplyCancel

  • Heidi BK Sloss - I don’t lie about my age (54 1/2!), and I love surprising people when they hear my age. Personally turning 45 has been the hardest when I had to accept that I was probably past the half way mark of my life. 50 was a breeze, I had my 1st book published, lost 55 lbs. and celebrated with 3 fun trips. I think the men who told you not to share your age are the ones with a problem. Aging gracefully is great fun!ReplyCancel

  • Elaine - I don’t lie about my age.. But admit I do hope to get a shocked reaction when I do tell.ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Nope, wouldn’t lie. But then I’m not in a business that revears youth. I feel I’m lucky to be 74. Too many never had the gift of reaching that age.ReplyCancel

  • blogqueendiane - Great blog post!

    I feel like you become a better person — or more of the person you were meant to be — the older you get. If someone directly asks my age, I’ll tell them, but otherwise, have decided to be “over 50″ for the rest of my life…ReplyCancel

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal - My FIL died at 49 from ALS and my MIL was killed in a car wreck at 56. I guarantee you both of them would gladly jump from their graves at the opportunity to know their grandchildren! So lie about my age? Hell no. I’d rather celebrate every birthday, wrinkles and all, then not.ReplyCancel

Whether book lover or wordsmith, humorist or romantic, each book will delight, entertain, provoke, and inspire. Another thing they share?  They are all wonderful books for writers. Happy reading! The Big Book of Parenting Tweets-Featuring the Most Hilarious Parents on Twitter:  From the clever gals who created the blogs you love: Science of Parenthood and […]

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  • Ellen Dolgen - Thanks for the book suggestions. We have dear friends who are retired and every morning they each read a poem to each other!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - My poet ex fiance hated Neruda, but I do like him, too!ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - Agreed. The Big Book of Parenting Tweets is HILARIOUS. The Stephen King book isn’t hilarious, but it’s a good read and the man surely knows his topic. Haven’t read Neruda since college. What am I reading now? Just finished re-reading Elinor Lipman’s The Family Man. A good fun read.ReplyCancel

  • Angela Weight - i can’t wait to get the parenting tweet book. I need something light and funny these days.ReplyCancel

  • Jen Kehl - I really need to read On Writing. Every good writer I know has read that book and I think it’s time for a kick in the pants! And those tweets had me rolling! Everytime I get a glimpse into that book I know I’m going to love it!ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I think I’ve had that Stephen King book sitting on my shelf forever but I still haven’t read it — probably because I’m too busy writing!ReplyCancel

  • Kelly L Mckenzie - Stephen King? Seriously? I would never have thought to turn to him. Wow. I’m off to check it out. Thank you – great tip.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Endlich Heffernan - On Writing is one of my favorite books, thanks for the great reminder that I need to pick it up again!ReplyCancel

  • Nina - I’ve heard so many good things about On Writing. Definitely need to pick it up! Last great book I read was The Boys in the Boat, about the 1936 Olympics and a crew team from University of Washington who went on to win gold. Very inspiring!ReplyCancel

  • Nina - Love Neruda! I spent my junior year of college in Santiago and Neruda always symbolizes that time for me.ReplyCancel

  • Snarkfest - On Writing is a fantastic book. I actually read it BEFORE (years before) I started writing, and I may need to break it out again!ReplyCancel

2015 began with a slower start than I had planned. Usually, I hurl myself into the new year with renewed vim and vigor and a To-Do List a mile long. My body and mind tingling from the excitement of a new beginning and probably too much caffeine. But I was sidelined… Unplugging from most of […]

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  • Estelle - Welcome back Linda! Glad you had such a nice time with your kids. Love your word. Mine is depth–I want to go deeper this year with my writing and my relationships. Here’s to a happy 2015!ReplyCancel

  • Alison @ The Gracious Posse - PURGE. Glad you are back connecting! Happy New Year!ReplyCancel

  • Elaine - Happy New Year CG..Loved this post! And who knew you were so handy with a tortilla chip!?ReplyCancel

  • Barb Best - (Drum roll) My word is “relish” (not the condiment)ReplyCancel

  • Vanessa - My one word resolution is DO. So instead of trying, I will DO it.ReplyCancel

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal - We seem to be leading parallel lives, although I will confess I have never been one to make NY resolutions, that’s more of a birthday thing for me. Love your word — I feel as if that is why we are all here — to connect. Welcome back and cheers to that slow start.ReplyCancel

  • Toni McCloe - I can’t think of a better way to spend an entire month than to spend it with your kids. And yes it is hard to get back into the swing of things. I know because I took off from marketing my book for a whole and it was really hard to work up the momentum again.
    I love the “editor’s note” and I’m going to check out Nashville, too.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Welcome back! My word is Improve because there seem to be so many areas in which I can achieve that. I can not, however, improve on that tortilla chip 2015 – which is awesome and making me want to already blow my diet, thank you very much.ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I love Nashville! Just another reason why I love you so much! Happy New Year. My word is NO.ReplyCancel

  • Not A Stepford Life Blog - Succeed is my word. It’s a HUGE word, encompassing my goals as a wife, mother, and writer. And general human being.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Great to see you again. I have never formally chosen a word for the year, but as I consider what I’ve been focusing these first days of 2015, I suppose my word must be HEALTHY… in so many ways that go beyond eating better and exercising. Healthy relationships. Healthy spending, eating, working — with all of that focusing on balance. So maybe my word is BALANCE. Heck… maybe it should be FOCUS.

    I love “brave,” though. I’m a worrier, too. Maybe it’s a Cancer thing. Good luck with that. 😀ReplyCancel

  • Karen M Friedman - I love your tortilla chip photo! My word is FOCUS!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - You need to get well soon, goddess! Yeah, going around.ReplyCancel

  • Andi - I only took two weeks off and had a difficult time getting back into it as well! IT felt so right and so wrong at the same time! My word of the year is refine which has also been my word the last 2 years, I am hoping to get it right this year!ReplyCancel

  • Hayley Kaplan - Your post could have been mine because it says so much of what I’m feeling and thinking. Good stop getting started again – I hope to follow in your footsteps soon.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - I can tell my brain is cotton after being on vacation because I thought I left you a comment!

    I am leading a parallel life except for Nashville! (Sorry) I haven’t chosen a word, but I love “reach”, “less drama” (yes, I know that’s two!) and “healthy.”

    Here’s to an incredible 2015!ReplyCancel

  • mike - Awesome! 2015 will be a great year to all of us bloggers! Cheers to all of our success :)ReplyCancel

  • Carpool Goddess - So happy to be back and thanks for the warm welcome! Love the words y’all have come up with.ReplyCancel

  • Raejean - I hope you are feeling better! My word of the year is happy. As my children get older and life changes, I realized much of my happiness revolved around making others to the point of losing touch with what makes me happy.ReplyCancel

My father and I used to play silly games in the car on the way to school when I was little. “What number am I thinking?” he’d ask. And no matter what number I said, he’d exclaim, “You’re right!” And I would squeal with delight. Instinctively, I knew never to try this game with my […]

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  • becca - What a beautiful story and a great lesson learned. thank you for sharing your memory.ReplyCancel

  • Tara Pittman - Such a great post. I can see the joy kids get when they win but they also need to be taught how to lose too as that is a life lesson.ReplyCancel

  • Nina - Linda, this was very touching. It’s amazing he remembered those memories all those years. It’s also great that he turned it around and let you win as well.

    I agree—I let my kids win since they’re so young. I’m all about challenges, but I’m also aware that I have a crazy unfair advantage against my kids and using that makes the whole game not fun.

    Once I can see them master something, then I don’t let them have it so easy, but in the meantime, that delight they’ve won is priceless :)ReplyCancel

  • john - By far the hardest test in life being a parent, I am still on my early days of parenthood and I am really taking small steps and preparing myself for the things to come. This kind of post is what i really wanted to help me understand others.ReplyCancel

I was in a long line at Starbucks this morning, happily waiting to feed my coffee addiction, when I noticed almost everyone looking down at their smart phones. This reminded me of a conversation I had at dinner the other night with friends, about how hard it seems for many young singles to meet “someone.” […]

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  • Sharon Hodor Greenthal - My daughter showed me her Tinder account a few weeks ago and my first thought was I would have been obsessed with that when I was her age. Whether or not it would be better to put down the phones, I don’t think it’s going to happen…I noticed the same thing at the airport yesterday during the brief time I didn’t have my head in my computer!ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - You are so right. Our kids are meeting people through social media now. I’ve heard of many successful outcomes on JDate and others. A different world …ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Totally agree. And even when they do meet, they spend more time texting each other than actually talking. I feel like a dinosaur complaining about it – and a hypocrite since I’m staring at a screen most of the day.ReplyCancel

  • Debra Paget Harris - I could not agree more! Our kids wouldn’t be able to exist without their cell phones and social media. Really makes you think about what technologies could possibly be next.

  • Mary Bird Lanzavecchia - My daughters and I watch people sit next to each other, clearly “sharing time” together, with their noses down in their phones. I must admit, though, I’ve been guilty of stealing glances at my phone while sitting in the living room watching a movie with my family. Um, oops. Great reminder!ReplyCancel

  • Heidi Sloss - I agree, it is a problem for this generation. Do they know how to connect without their smart devices. Of course our generation has to take some responsibility for creating this situation as we spent much of their childhood teaching them all about stranger danger. So how can they trust their instincts when meeting random people?ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - I feel old when I am traveling and want to ask someone about a book they are carrying but there is no opportunity to do so because as soon as the book is put down, the phone is picked up… I’m guilty of being overly connected too.ReplyCancel

  • Janice Greenfield Rappoport-Wald - Hi, I agree with you that technology has not helped in all ways. You can’t even comment on a book if you can’t see the cover due to kindle.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - Crazy truths. I can’t imagine standing in line anywhere any more without at least 80% of the people looking down – most days, including me…. Makes me think. I met my husband by chance. It would not have happened if I were as connected and worried about staying that way as I am now…. Insane to think about isn’t it?ReplyCancel

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal - SO true! I have observed the same thing, but not tied it to finding love. It seems as if no one is capable of resting in place alone, it actually frightens me. Every summer we take our kids to our summer cabin, while there we limit all the electronics. I am convinced this habit of learning to be quiet, to be still, to simply be, serves them.
    Don’t you find you want to yell out, FOR GOODNESS SAKE TAKE A MINUTE OFF!
    Love this post!ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - You’re absolutely right, of course. But will anybody — ever — put their phones down? Even for a minute? Not a chance.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Great advice. That phone thing makes me nuts. Progress? Ha.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - I wrote an article for Next Avenue not all that long ago on the difficulty of finding a mate nowadays for young adult . The experts I interviewed said this very same thing. Look up, single folks, for your true love may be right in front of you!ReplyCancel

  • Hayley Kaplan - Couldn’t agree with you more. But there are so many more reasons than that to put down our cell phones. People are losing the ability to communicate appropriately in general. I am always surprised by the number of people together, yet alone, in restaurants. Why bother to go eat with someone if you’re on the phone throughout the meal texting someone else or checking email or doing whatever else they’re all doing as they’re looking at their phones instead of engaging in the moment. I’m going to share your article on my FB page. It’s a true problem relating to technology.ReplyCancel

  • Ali A - Sigh. I hate how true this is. I’m a 32 year old single female and I’ve been on both sides. I often catch myself glued to my phone when on the subway, on line at the store, or anywhere in public, really. I’ll then realize just how unapproachable that makes me and so I’ll put the phone down and try to take a look around at my surroundings. Not necessarily because I’m trying to find the love of my life, but just to take in the sights and also get some great NYC people-watching in.

    And that’s when I realize: everyone ELSE is on their phone or has their nose in some kind of device. Human interaction of any kind with strangers is just G-O-N-E. No one ever looks up from their i(Pad)(Phone)(Pod) and it’s really, really sad.

    You’re right; this behavior makes it virtually impossible to meet people in any capacity. Boo.ReplyCancel

  • Nina - Yup, this makes me so sad when I see folks glued to their phones. Can’t say I’m innocent of it but when I catch myself I put the phone away. It’s harder to strike up a conversation with someone when they look engrossed in their phone!ReplyCancel