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There is only one thing more stressful than moving a college kid into an apartment across the country. Moving two…in the same week…in different states. I’m not going to tell you about the pinched nerve from a herniated disk to look like a hero, or anything, but just keep that in the back of your […]

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  • Hayley Kaplan - What an awesome service. Too bad I didn’t know about it when I moved my kid into his apartment this year. Thanks for sharing and I’ll pass the info along to anyone else in the same boat in the future.ReplyCancel

  • Claudia Schmidt - It is such a small world – I have a close friend who works for Cort yet never knew they also provided this service for dorms. Good to know for my college freshman daughter when she decides to move off campus.
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    • Carpool Goddess - My daughter used it for her apartment, but I’m sure they would do dorms too if they had the space.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine - This is a great service for parents and students to know about. We looked into it, but learned that there was no way to know exactly what the furniture would look like, as it varied from city to city and whatever was in stock. My daughter and her roommate had a definite vision for their first apartment, so this was just too big of a gamble. Perhaps this is something that Cort can work on.ReplyCancel

    • Carpool Goddess - Yes, it would be great if you could pick exactly what you want, but most of their furniture and fabrics are pretty neutral so it was easy to decorate around them.ReplyCancel

  • Sherri - Great idea… it never occured to me to rent their furniture! Our apartment moving experience was only a few hours’ drive. I think you deserve that spa day.
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  • Shelley Zurek - While I have not heard of CORT, I am stunned that this is such a new service. Makes so much sense. Also, is it only for studings?
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    • Carpool Goddess - Shelley, it’s not just for students. I know of some recent grads who used them when they moved to a new city for work.ReplyCancel

  • Kim Tackett - Both of my daughters went to school out of state (one out of country) and furnishing their apartments was really a challenge. One took the Craiglist route, and another had a roommate with very generous parents. In both cases, we supplemented with IKEA, and the furniture we bought was left behind when they moved on. This is a good alternative.
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    • Carpool Goddess - Kim, it was so easy, especially since it was out of state. I’m always in favor of anything to lessen the stress.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Moving IS hard. Getting help was a great idea.
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  • Mary - Thanks for the advice. I would have never thought of CORT, now it is at the top of my list when my kids go away to college!ReplyCancel

  • Grown and Flown - What a very timely post, Linda. I will definitely check this out!!! Hope your back is recovering!!! ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - What a great idea! Wonderful service.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - No doubt Warren Buffet has something to do with how wonderful CORT is. What a wonderful service and I’m so glad you are writing about this important company!ReplyCancel

  • Karen D. Austin - That’s really interesting. I had no idea a service like CORT even existed. My kids are 13 and 16, so it’s not a need now, but eventually they’ll launch. (Right?)ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Sounds like a fabulous service. I got very lucky with my youngest two girls (a year apart). They both chose the same college, so although it was seven hours away from home, the moves were easier than most. Kudos to you for successfully tackling the challenge! ReplyCancel

  • Lucia P. - I had no idea they did this. Great idea. Wish I’d known this a year ago!
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  • Lois Alter Mark - Wow, what a fantastic service. We could so have used them with both of my kids. P.S. Hope you get your spa weekend soon :)ReplyCancel

Applying to college isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s exciting. It’s nerve-wracking. And, I’m not gonna to lie, we left nothing to chance. We were clearly not in charge, nor did we want to be, but we were team players in this big game. There are some parents who let their kids run with […]

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  • Elaine - Good advise CG!ReplyCancel

  • Christina Simon - This is great! I’ll definitely keep my opinions to myself, or else…

    My daughter is 14 so it’s not too far in the future that we’ll be touring colleges.ReplyCancel

    • Carpool Goddess - Yes, they have a way of wanting whatever we don’t want. Keeping my mouth shut was the hardest part of the process!ReplyCancel

  • thedoseofreality - I feel like it has changed so much just since I went to college. Truly a family process now! Thank you for this post! :)-Ashley
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    • Carpool Goddess - I agree, Ashley! I was pretty much on my own when applying. But, it was also easier to get into college then. There is no way I would be able to get into that same college today.Thanks for reading!ReplyCancel

  • Sandra Sallin - Thank goodness I’m over this stuff. But great information for those just starting on the journey. So many questions, so many roads. Yes, do your studying for your SAT’s before you go to the beach. :-)
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  • Sarah Winer Maizes - This is all so terrifying to me. Izzy’s in 9th grade and I’m just bracing myself. GREAT words of wisdom! ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - Great tips, Linda!ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - Great tips, Linda!ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - Great advice, Linda. It was a stressful time with all three kids but we got through it intact. ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Such great advice. I don’t think any time has been more stressful for our family than the two application processes. Both kids made it through, we all survived, they’re thriving and are now actually considering grad school. Oy.ReplyCancel

  • Jordan Catapano - Great post!
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  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Good to know the process that is needed to make it all happen. I have years to go but I will bookmark this. Of course college will probably be on Mars by the time my 5 year old is ready to go:)ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Excellent advice. Been there, done that, now celebrating my children’s independence.ReplyCancel

  • Kim Tackett - We tried to find a balance. As I tell my friends, the best thing you can do is help your children know themselves, so they can make the best choices for themselves. My oldest applied to 6, including one out of country. One of them was our alma mater (which she didn’t want to apply to, but did for us). She was accepted to 5 and chose the out of country. My youngest applied to one, early, and was accepted early. We asked her to apply to our alma mater, feeling like she needed a back up, just in case her life changed. She refused and went to her first choice school. Now she’s not sure that was the perfect choice, but our alma mater wasn’t even a consideration. It was a really, really good choice, but it was based on her major, which changed.
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    • Carpool Goddess - Many kids question their decision, and some decide to transfer. So hard to really know where they want to be while still in high school, as so many things change.ReplyCancel

  • Sheryl - Well, you certainly nailed it. I remember those days…they sure are stressful, aren’t they? It’s nice to be able to look back.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - Perfect pieces of advice and great perspective on a process that is stressful for not just us but our kids! I am sharing this with a couple friends who in the heat of this process right now! Thanks!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I tweeted this good advice.
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  • Heidi BK Sloss - Not sure what happened to my comment that I left the other day, but with our youngest now in university, i can say I am very relieved to be done with this process. You hit the nail on the head with the whole idea of avoiding grade level events during the whole applying and then hearing back process. It is all nerve wracking enough without all the competition from other parents!
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    • Carpool Goddess - Hi, Heidi, thank you for commenting again, didn’t get your first one. Yes, total relief when the process is over! I feel sorry for parents when I hear them stressing out over senior year. It’s so hard on everyone.ReplyCancel

  • Kimba - Great GREAT overview and advise. I remember all of this. My son went to college exactly where he was supposed to go – had the time of his life and now he’s in grad school. So hang in there parents – it’s all worth it!ReplyCancel

Raising my children, now 21 and 23, has been an honor and a privilege. Though, I would be lying if I said every moment has been wonderful. Teachable moments aren’t always easy. But the one constant while raising them has been that they always were and always will be my most favorite people on earth. […]

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  • WendysHat - This is a wonderful post and so important! Thank you!
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  • Estelle - Linda,
    It’s so important to get the word out about this. My daughter is too young for this message but my babysitters and all the other teens in my life can certainly benefit. Thanks for sharing!
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  • Sheryl - By getting the word out you are helping so many people – when my kids were younger, it was so sad to see so many teens with so many drug problems.ReplyCancel

    • Carpool Goddess - Thanks, Sheryl. I’m hoping more people see this and share this message. It’s amazing the lengths some kids (adults too) will go to get high.ReplyCancel

Fall is here, the kids are back in school, and there is no better way to enjoy the cooler days and blustery nights than grabbing a glass of wine and reading a good book. So check out this list, get cozy and start reading. Hot Toddy’s optional. Not Your Mother’s Book On Family edited by […]

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Any woman who has ever felt the sting, confusion, heartbreak, relief, or regret, that comes when a friendship is over, needs to be over, or when a glaring betrayal begs the question “Is this friendship worth saving?”, will want to read the newly released My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friends. […]

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Learning to live out loud in my second half wasn’t originally my goal, but it happened anyway. I pretty much spent a lifetime fluffing the pillows in my cushy comfort zone. But all that changed four years ago when I took a chance as the empty nest began to creep up on me. Fueled by […]

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  • Chris Carter - I love how you got started and began to take those courageous steps toward growing as a person and as a writer in the blogging world! I love that you started this for YOU and that your talent has taken you far! And I absolutely agree about NOT telling other people’s stories on my blog or anywhere really. I too, try to never dishonor anyone’s trust in me.

    And yes we would we want the same!

    Such a great reflective post… the best of luck to you with your success!
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  • Sandra Sallin - You’ve come a long way baby and it’s a treat to read you and be a friend. You’ve got a lot of fun and pithy words to share. I lap each word up! You go girl!
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  • Sheryl - Yup, that’s what the empty nest does. It not only gives our kids wings to fly, it gives them to US, too – and fly you did! Keep up the good work :)
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  • Sharon Hodor Greenthal - I’m so glad you started blogging because besides the fact that I love your writing, I am so happy to have you as a real life friend now! I think it’s wonderful that you have such respect for your family and friends and choose not to write about them – it’s not easy to keep others out of our blogs, is it?ReplyCancel

  • Joefloggers - I feel ya on the empty nest thing, although my youngest is still here so maybe not quite empty. I do have the granddaughter over a lot though so she keeps me hopping. Hoping to post her adventures on my blog soon.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine - So proud of you my friend! Keep on writing!ReplyCancel

  • Hayley Kaplan - Your personality always shines through your witty blog posts – it’s such a treat to do something you love and enjoy, isn’t it? ReplyCancel

  • Pam Thompson - Sounds so similar! My bog used to be more about the kids, but as they got older, I too agreed that their stories were not my stories and things became all about me. . .which is odd, because I’m shy! I’ve really enjoyed your college blog posts, as I am navigating those waters! Keep on writing!
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  • Mary - What an inspiring post, Linda! It seems that we’re all ‘Accidental Bloggers” of some kind, in one way or another, & I love how much I LEARN from everyone. The Huffington Post is a dream of mine, so its very inspiring to read they came in search of you! :)
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    • Carpool Goddess - Thank you, Mary! Actually, I was in search of HuffPost (more like begging and offering a first born), joking how they looked for me.ReplyCancel

  • Barbara Lambert aka NotesFrom2Half - Great Post! And I also enjoyed reading some of your back story.
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  • Becky Blades - Love hearing your back story, Linda! And glad you’re out there carpooling with us newbies. You make it look fun and easy.
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  • Cathy Chester - I am SO glad you started to blog. I am SO glad you are a good (and very funny) writer. And I am SO glad I met you IRL last summer. Because you are the genuine, authentic, real-deal, Linda Maltz Wolff, and I knew that right away. A true gem. BTW, last week I was saying I am part introvert part extrovert, if that is possible. It depends on the situation, so I understand the shy part. Big hugs for this marvelous post.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - I have always loved reading your blog. It is funny and warm, just like you. Keep on writing, my friend!ReplyCancel

  • Estelle - I knew the minute we met at BlogHer 13 that you would be someone fun to hang out with. So glad that you are thriving in your second act and that we are both featured in our new book: My Other Ex: Women’s True Stories of Losing and Leaving Friends. You are one friend I want to keep!
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  • Nina - We’re very similar! I started my blog using initials, a pseudonym, and even now, I’m still shy about posting my last name and photo! And I STILL don’t blast my blog out to the world in my personal social circles. I know, it’s nuts, but I feel like I’m so open online but I wonder how people I know in my ‘real life’ will think of my writing.
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    • Carpool Goddess - Nina, I’ve had a lot of positive feedback from people IRL who I had no idea read my blog. It was encouraging. We’re all our own worst critic, so keep writing and don’t worry about what people think.ReplyCancel

Recently, I had lunch with a group of ladies I’ve known for years. We were celebrating our dear, eternally youthful friend’s – lean over now, I’ll whisper it in your ear – 59th birthday. She does not look a day over 40 which is something I do not hold against her. Yes, that makes me […]

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  • Elaine - Here’s to many more birthday’s surrounded by good friends and chocolate cake.ReplyCancel

  • Sharon Hodor Greenthal - There’s nothing like old friends, is there. And old thighs, too :)ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - Growing older with friends is the best thing. Ever.ReplyCancel

  • Anne Parris - Everyone looks the same in the retirement home, so enjoy the chocolate and sparklers now! Very happy birthday, Linda! My long-term friends are a joy, and I love looking back on how far we’ve come together. I’m happy to hear you have the same type of people around you. ReplyCancel

  • Mindy Klapper Trotta - Old friends are the best–they make swallowing that aging pill (and chocolate) go down so much easier! Happy Birthday!!ReplyCancel

  • Margaret Robinson Rutherford - I remember the first time someone said to me, “I hope I am like you when I am your age”. Obviously a compliment but stung a bit. I agree with your other commenters that having friends that are going through the changes with you – that’s so comforting. Fun post!ReplyCancel

  • Suzanne Fluhr - I celebrated a milestone birthday in April. Yeppers. The BIG six oh. You took the words right out of mouth. There are sags, wrinkles and age spots, but, as you said, it sure beats the alternative. My marathon running, healthy eating brother-in-law was found dead on the floor by his wife a week after my birthday from undiagnosed heat disease. He was 50. Carpe diem—or in other words—good friends and chocolate. Go for it!
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  • Sandr Sallin - Always a treat to read you, young lady. It is a joy and a blessing to grow old with close friends. I’m still lunching with my buddies from grammar school. I count myself lucky.
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    • Carpool Goddess - Aw, so glad you enjoyed this! One of my oldest friends is from grammar school. We share such great memories!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Old friends are great. As are new old friends. :-D Getting older comes with so many other perks, the crap that happens to our bodies is worth it. (Or so I keep telling myself.)ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - I love my 2 friends who I’ve known for, gulp, 45 years. Identical twins, but in the BEST shape. No tummies, small tushes. Ugh, I would hate them if I didn’t love them so much!

    So glad you have your besties, and that we both have each other and the other blogging buds that we are now great friends with today. Hooray for us all enjoying the ride together, Linda!! It’s been fun so far and just think what’s in store.
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    • Carpool Goddess - No tummies, small tushies? I don’t know if I could be friends with them. Just kidding!!! My oldest friend is a tiny peanut and has the body of a 15-year-old. I still love her ;)ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - It’s so nice to hear that you have stayed connected with old-time friends. I have stayed connected with a handful of friends from childhood and they have been so instrumental in my life.ReplyCancel

  • Hayley - If you can’t beat them, join them. Since fighting getting older is a waste of time, may as well enjoy the benefits – one of which is seizing the opportunity to get together with friends to catch up and celebrate. You look beautiful in the photo, by the way. And no older than 30!
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    • Carpool Goddess - Thanks Hayley, it’s slightly blurry, which is how I photograph best! Okay, to heck with the exercising, let’s eat!ReplyCancel

  • Grown and Flown - Linda, what a wonderful gathering! Being able to have good friends to share this march of time makes all the difference in the world. It is “one of life’s great blessings!”
    Happy Birthday to you, belatedly! MD
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  • Sheryl - Birthdays definitely beat the alternative…but I’d like to invite any willing plastic surgeon to my next (big) birthday bash!!ReplyCancel

  • Lana - It sounds like a wonderful lunch – and I agree with everything you said!ReplyCancel

  • Lana - It sounds like a wonderful lunch – and I agree with everything you said!ReplyCancel

  • Goodness Gracious Living - I just had a lunch like that. Not for a birthday, but a get-together with friends from camp that I have known since we were 10. 33 years later, we still don’t run out of things to talk about and we still have each other’s backs. Love my camp girls. Thanks for sharing your story!ReplyCancel

It’s summer. The kids are home and it’s sweet bliss. What? You can’t wait for September? Have no fear. Labor Day will be here soon enough. If you feel you’re in need of some comic relief – and who isn’t? – have a look-see at what I’m reading poolside. This group is smart and sassy […]

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  • Julie - Thanks so much for the recommendations! I love funny stuff.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Endlich Heffernan - Pinned that for our readers, great list!ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - These are some really funny books, I agree! ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - I read Emotional Baggage Claim and it was fantastic! Currently reading Why. My Third a Husband Will Be A Dog and I’ve got my copy of Have A Mice Giilt Trip waiting in the wings. Guess you could say I’ve become a Scottolibe junkie since Erma! ReplyCancel

  • Marie Perrigo - I was just looking for some good books this week! I’ll check these out. Laughter is always needed!ReplyCancel

  • Jen Maidenberg - Good to have a few choices for comic relief this summer. Mostly I have been reading heavy philosophy and poetry (by choice but still!)ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Great list of books. I have so many in my Kindle and hard copies as well. But, I will keep this list handy.ReplyCancel

  • Jessica - I love book lists! Thanks for this one of some humorous reads. As it is the nearing the end of summer, I could use some humor.

    Stopping by from #SITS and so glad I found you!ReplyCancel

  • Mary - So fun! I am definitely going to have to load some of these on my kindle :)
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Mini-me is home for the summer and that means eating extra healthy and spending more time in the kitchen. (Oh, dear God). We usually enjoy bonding while baking, but last week we decided to expand our culinary repertoire to salads. I’m shocked too. Here’s the dinner we whipped up for the family. It was light […]

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  • Hayley Kaplan - Sounds scrumptious. Wish I had all the ingredients on hand to make it right now. Thanks, Linda.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Endlich Heffernan - On a miserable hot day like today, this sounds just about right. Cool food, no oven. Thanks LindaReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - I like avocado with anything. Apples. Chicken. it all works together and looks delicious.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - That looks delicious! What a great combination — I’m drooling already!ReplyCancel

  • Lisha Fink - I have ripe avocados and leftover chicken in the fridge. Guess what’s for dinner!
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  • Janie Emaus - Yum. Yum. This looks delicious! ReplyCancel

  • Lana - You had me at avocado – then you went and added apples and almonds. Cannot wait to try this!
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  • Cathy Chester - I love these ingredients. I may even, ahem, cook – to make it! Of course I will. Great recipe. Enjoy your time with Little YOU!ReplyCancel

Last week I had the opportunity to join a group of fellow bloggers for a fun filled day celebrating the upcoming release of the movie Blended, starring Adam Sandler, Drew Barrymore, Joel McHale and Wendy McLendon-Covey. After our screening and before the interviews with the movie’s stars, we were treated to a delicious lunch, hair […]

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Ever since I got my hands on my first diary at age 8, I knew I wanted to be a writer. Aside from the horrible spelling and questionable punctuation, every page of my chocolate smudged Snoopy diary was filled with drama, humor, sarcasm and, later on, teenage angst. Sadly, I destroyed my first diary since […]

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